The Mindset Games by Katrina Kelly
When Hairdressing Live got in touch and asked would I write a blog post on mindset, I jumped at the chance. I knew I had to put my fingers to the laptop and fill you all in on what I have learned over the last 20 years reading, practicing and learning about mindset.
So I am 41 now and what I say here is just my experience, we are all on our own journey, so hopefully even one thing will resonate with you.
Growing up I’ve always been told “you’re so positive” and “you’ve such a great outlook on life”. Honestly I didn’t even realise it at the time but I have been privileged with a positive mindset, however riddled with fear. My mind is Ying and Yang; “go for it, oh but be careful” , “you got this, but do you though?”. However, the positive mind always tell me “I can do it, just keep going”. What I have learned is that if I allow the Yang in, she’s like a rope holding me in one spot while Ying is screaming let her go she needs to cross the finish line.
Sometimes Yang doesn’t let go and I don’t always cross that finish line, so this is why I had to explore; me, my mindset, why sometimes when I need Yang to let go she doesn’t and I feel stuck, stuck in the quicksand of life when I’m close to touching my dreams, Ying is waving at me shouting “your so close Katrina, just one more step”.
My deep understanding of Yang, after therapy, life coaching, hundreds of self help books, is fear. Yang is my fear, I tell myself I’m not afraid, but the evidence shows that the fear is there. Once you go in so deep on yourself you will start to realise what your Yang is, and why? It’s deeply rooted in our past and although we cant change the past, we can most definitely change our today. Don’t worry about the future and make small changes today for your future self. I once heard a saying “do something today that your future self will thank you for”. It’s things like making your bed in the morning. Your future bedtime self will always thank you. Its very simple, what do you want in your future? So, what can you do today that you will be saying thank you for?
So how did I get to this point? We all make mistakes but when the same mistakes keep happening nothing will change. Unless you do! That, for me, started with the words I told myself. As soon as you realise life happens regardless, day will always turn to night, so what can you do in the waking hours to make a difference to your own life? Because nobody is coming to do it for you, if you need help scream it from the roof top, you have to ask for it. If your lucky enough that someone notices and asks “are you ok?”, be honest. Saying that shit out loud will help you! We are all a victim of ourselves until we wake up and save ourselves. It’s nobody’s fault that life happened to us but it is our fault if we don’t start living and riding those moments.
Feeling Grateful for what we already have is a huge factor to our happiness. I try to write down a place, a person and an ability that I have that I am grateful for most days. It really helps me, especially if somebody is pissing me off, so if you can write why you are grateful for this person that shows strength and growth on your part. It doesn’t help our mindset to always be reactive. Choose your time to react and the outcome will be better.
“Don’t say yes, when you mean no”. As a reformed professional people pleaser, (and I guess in our line of business we have been told the customer is always right), I know that we can become accustomed to ‘yes culture’. Which I know I had become accustomed to both personally and professionally. One of the best things I have worked on is being more direct, I say no more times than I say yes, I am super direct and importantly I am never ever rude. You can be nice, kind, say no and be direct. Having awareness in how we say things is so important.
My Mindset hacks
I get up early. 5,4,3,2,1, blast off. Jump up, if I press the snooze button I’m f**ked. However every now and then I press that snooze and I am still here. So, go easy on yourself its only a problem if it’s a habit that’s not serving you.
Exercise is a huge factor for my mindset but being consistent is better so my goal is to only do 10 mins exercise everyday. That’s my goal, I hit it but some days I go to the gym or go for a run on top of my ten minutes.
I get my clothes ready the night before. Your morning routine starts the evening before. If you’re trying to get ready the morning of then you’re already late. Show up for you. Organisation is the key to calmness. Calmness brings less mistakes and less stress. Life is already stressful enough without us not showing up for ourselves.
My whatsapp groups are accountability groups, if they are negative then I’m out. Stick a fork in me cause I haven’t got time to bring my vibe down. Protect your happiness.
Affirmations and manifestation; I swear these bad boys work! My current fave is from Tiktok and it works for your mindset. Write it on your mirror, say it out loud 3 times a day all day long, do whatever it takes to believe in you.
“I don’t change, I attract. What belongs to me will simply find me”
KK x
Written by Katrina Kelly
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